“I am selfish with myself” – Toke Makinwa shares difficulties with letting a man into her life.
Written by MAX FM on June 12, 2020
“I am selfish with myself” – Toke Makinwa shares difficulties with letting a man into her life.
Toke Makinwa took to Twitter to share some of the difficulties she’s facing in letting a man into her life.
The media personality said she’s been single for so long that she’s now used to her space and to being selfish with herself. As a result, she likes the idea of a relationship more than actually being in one.
She also said that she likes to date but it’s a lot of work and she looks for reasons to cancel when she’s asked out.
She wrote: “Been single so long that I like the idea of a relationship more than actually being in one, I am selfish with myself, I love my space, I like to move as I want, I love waking up sprawled out on my bed alone, the concept of “sacrificing” all these to “accommodate anyone scares me.”
She added: “I know I like to “date” but when I’m actually asked out on a date I think of a million reasons to cancel,the thought of putting in effort turns me off, in my head it’s rosy, in real life…. It is a lot of work and I can’t be bothered, who else can relate?
“Chatting is cute in the beginning, at some point I get tired and lose interest, can someone date for me, like can I hire an assistant to go on all these dates, share my CV, see if we are fit for each other and close the deal, i just want to fast forward the process.
“I think I know what the problem is, I have been in a relationship with myself for so long, dating myself and loving on me, I have become selfish, I’ll need to first break up with me but I like me, me works, me comes first, I don’t know how to undate myself. Whelp.”
See tweet:
I agree, I romanticize it in my head, the actual doing is where the problem is ??? https://t.co/Pz39OJ3mSs
— Toke Makinwa (@tokstarr) June 12, 2020
They tell you to fall in love with yourself, yet when you do, they say not too much less people think you are selfish. Then they say “don’t settle”, know your worth, you raise your standards high they come again and say “be realistic”, this life is crazy ?, just do you.
— Toke Makinwa (@tokstarr) June 12, 2020
I think I know what the problem is, I have been in a relationship with myself for so long, dating myself and loving on me, I have become selfish, I’ll need to first break up with me but I like me, me works, me comes first, I don’t know how to undate myself. Whelp
— Toke Makinwa (@tokstarr) June 12, 2020
Chatting is cute in the beginning, at some point I get tired and lose interest, can someone date for me, like can I hire an assistant to go on all these dates, share my CV, see if we are fit for each other and close the deal, i just want to fast forward the process ??❤️
— Toke Makinwa (@tokstarr) June 12, 2020
I know I like to “date” but when I’m actually asked out on a date I think of a million reasons to cancel,the thought of putting in effort turns me off, in my head it’s rosy, in real life…. It is a lot of work and I can’t be bothered, who else can relate?
— Toke Makinwa (@tokstarr) June 12, 2020
Been single so long that I like the idea of a relationship more than actually being in one, I am selfish with myself, I love my space, I like to move as I want, I love waking up sprawled out on my bed alone, the concept of “sacrificing” all these to “accommodate anyone scares me
— Toke Makinwa (@tokstarr) June 12, 2020
